"Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other guy to die." — Karen Jensen

God has given children one commandment for their lives (He knew they had short attentions spans!).

It’s in Ephesians 6:1: “Children, obey your parents in Lord for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”

God knew that kids who grow up obeying their parents will grow up to be adults who obey Him. And things will go well with them, and they’ll live a long, happy life.

So when you teach your child to obey you, it’s not so you can look good or have peace and quiet – it’s so you can help them fulfill the one commandment on their life. It’s not optional.

The key to helping them learn to obey....

...is to correct them the first time, every time.

As a general rule, we don’t like to correct our children, so we tend to put it off. Sometimes we’re too tired or it’s just inconvenient (we’ve all done this -- just keep smiling here, and no one will know it’s you!).

Very often we wait to correct them until we’re mad or frustrated – we try to reason with them, “count to 10,” send them to time out, or ask “Do you want a spanking?” instead of just doing it (has any child ever said yes? lol). We've relegated spanking to a "last resort" kind of deal.

The problem is, when we wait until the 5th time they disobey (or longer) before we correct them, we’re training them to disobey 4 times until they make us good and mad. That’s 4 times of disobeying the one commandment on their life.

I love my children, and I want things to go well with them. That means they’ll have to learn to obey me. Maybe you are a parent who hasn't believed in spanking. I encourage you to look into God's Word about it. It's in there, and when we do it correctly, it's good news and it works! *

I don't spank my children for being kids, or to exert my "power" over them -- I spank them to correct their behavior, and help them do what's right. And consistency is the key. It’s the hard part of being a parent.

But correcting first time every time is the fairest way for children, and it’s the way they will learn obedience, so things will go well with them, and they’ll live a long time on the earth!

 

(*For more from God's Word on correction -- when to spank and how to do it correctly -- get Parenting With a Purpose on either DVD or CD in the bookstore at karenjensen.org).

What Parent's Are Saying

“My four year old son was out of control, to the point where I had to take him out of pre-school and stay home with him. But after just a few days of applying these parenting principles, he has changed dramatically!  Now he listens and obeys, and our home is peaceful – it’s almost miraculous! I am putting him back in school and able to continue with my own schooling.  Thank you so much!”  — F.L.

“My wife and I began putting these principles into practice right away and began to see excellent results. Our children respond very well to our godly way of discipline.  So much better for us. Thank you!”    — M.L.

“I attended one of Karen's seminars and it was far above everything I expected. It has equipped me with information that I needed to properly launch my children into their destinies.” — R.T.

“I have a 2 year old daughter and I didn’t believe in spanking until I watched Parenting With a Purpose and was made to understand the biblical purpose of spanking. Now I get it!  Now my daughter will benefit every day of her life – she’ll be able to fulfill God’s purpose for her life.  My home is now peaceful and calm with a loving and obedient daughter who will grow up obeying God’s Word quickly.”   — T.O.

“I learned SO much from Parenting With a Purpose about God’s view of parenting. I especially learned about correction and why & how to do it.  I can’t imagine waiting until my child is older before taking this course.” — K.H.

“After applying these principles of correction then praying with my son afterwards, he gave me a big hug and looked straight into my eyes and said, ‘I love you, Mom!’ I just melted.  He is 3 and has never expressed this kind of emotion before. I have taken many parenting classes and finally one that works! I now have the skills to help my child obey me so he will obey God." — M.J.

"Our 6-year-old grandson got his first report card at school this Friday.  The teacher had only positive things to say about him.  She said he is affectionate and helpful, both to her and his fellow sutdents.  He is obedient, attentive and a good worker. His big ‘turn around’ from being a rather disobedient and whiny troublemaker began when you came to our city and taught us how to raise children God’s way. My husband and I bought your Parenting With a Purpose CDs and gave them to our daughter.  Since then our grandson has never been the same.  I am so happy.  Thank you so much for coming!"  — L.K.